This wasn't supposed to be a cliffhanger

Ugh! This post wasn't supposed to leave you hanging for days. But as you know, life sometimes gets in the way. Running ran late yesterday and I'm battling what I think is half a cold. So I showered and went right to bed. Where I proceeded to shiver so much (effects of depleting glycolic stores) that it kept waking me up until I finally put more clothes on.

So I went on a date with H last week after work. It's funny even though he's a friend of a friend and we've been at the same parties/events we don't really know that much about each other. We do talk to each other when we see each other. It's just I realized I really know nothing about him. And I don't have the help of an internet dating profile to tell me about him.

But no matter, we started out by talking about our mutual friends and their upcoming wedding and all the fun activities that are involved with being in a wedding. Luckily, the girls have made quite a bit of progress on that front since our date. We went to a restaurant that was between my office and his house. We had dinner and talked for a few hours. About nothing in particular - just little funny stories about each other. We called it a night around 11 (I think). I was worried that I would be the one who got tired first (I had been up since 5:30 that morning), but he started yawning first and it was idea to call it a night (see I'm not such a boring girl - ok most of the time I'm the first one in bed). He walked me to my parking garage and we said goodbye.

Oh but I skipped the funniest part of the date (sorry H). This really hit home to me how little we know about each other. We didn't get to agree on a time until the afternoon of our date. I wasn't so sure we were going to have the date that I had alternate plans to see a movie with a friend. But he texted me towards the end of the work day to tell me that he would meet me at 8. So as I said that's he usually is very sarcastic so I thought he was joking - it was 5:30ish then. So I texted back "Really?" and I could tell by his response that he was serious and I had freaked him out. I felt bad. So I said no biggie - I'll go to the mall. And he didn't believe me that it was ok, but I insisted (at that point I was already at the mall and I had some pants I wanted to try on) - so I had a date with myself at the mall for about an hour and a half. I didn't end up buying anything. But it just pointed out to me that he has no idea where I work and how close I was to the restaurant we were going to. Funny!

In conclusion, it was a good date. I really feel like I know the very tip of the iceberg about him and he could say the same about me. That's the one good thing about some of these dating sites - they really put alot of answers to some important questions. So this one is going to take longer to figure out, but that's ok. Alright, it's bedtime for me and I have 5 miles to run tomorrow (and no route picked out).

A Twist and Turn

My mind has been churning for the less than 24 hours. Last night, my little journey took a twist and a turn. I don't know how temporary or permanent this twist is, but it's a journey so we'll see.

So here's what happened. I was out celebrating a friend's birthday. Throughout the years, she's introduced me to many of her friends that I know most of them by name and a little bit about them. Some more than others. I still remember the night she introduced me to the guy that will be come her husband in September.

Anyway, we were celebrating - a few beers among her friends in a bar. I ended up staying out late for me on a work night (way past my 10 PM bed time). So I had talked to a few people I knew but as I went around the table, I left my purse on the original chair.

So back I went to collect my purse and a friend of hers was sitting in the chair. No biggie. I knew him - nice guy. He started asking me about my blog. I was like yeah - you should definitely read it. I'll email you the website. So I emailed it to him. And then he's like we should go out. And I should caveat here - that he's a jokester and sarcastic. So I thought he was joking. But he wasn't. He was serious I realized in a few minutes. I agreed to the date and we picked a day. And it really started to sink in that he had just asked me out and he was serious. I think I was in disbelief - he really is always joking and saying something smart.

So on the way home, I realized. Oh crap - he had access to my blog!! How can I write about him in the blog?!? And people who know him already read the blog!! It's like having an theater critic at the performance.

But I realized he already knew about the blog and if he was going to ask me about it and still ask me out, then it was fair game to write about him and our dates. He can choose to read the posts or not. Having never been in the situation of putting my dates in print and having the date and his friends read them, I don't know if this is a good thing or not. So I'm going to have to feel this one out as I go along. So if I'm vague or go out of order, please play along. I promise I'll tell you as much as I can.

Oh and FYI, I did tell him on the date that I was going to write about him. And actually he told me he had forgotten that I had even sent him the web address to the blog (doh - why did I have to ask?). So who knows what he's read or what he hasn't, but he said it was fine to write about him. All is fair in love and war.

Note: Thank you to the others of you who have sent me emails on the last series of posts on lightning bolts and animals (ok, chemistry). Your insights are amazing. I read and ponder all your thoughts. It has helped me validate and question what I've been doing. Thanks for keeping me on the straight and narrow!

We are all Animals

Today we have a guest blogger helping me out. Really it comes from my last post. Ms. Amy sent me a nice long couple of paragraphs of feedback on my last post. And after reading her insights, I declared that she was getting a guest blog post...

The lightning bolt is a reflection of your animal instinct. People forget we're really animals because we think we're more advanced then them. We stare at African animals mating with amazement, but it's not like humans always shut their dog or their cat out of the room when they decide to get it on. What must that pet be thinking?!

Anyway, you may not always have a bolt when you meet someone, but if they make advances/flirtations towards you and there's no spark there may not ever be. Or you may get it after you get to know them as a person. Really, I think you have to know them on some level to get that spark. I mean, how many Brad Pitts do you know? Exactly.

Anyway, don't give up on the first date or the second. But after 4 or 5, you should know whether you have enough common ground to make it worth your while. Semi-spark or none at all are part of the overall picture of the common ground or lack thereof. You should be more worried about having a spark with a guy that ends up being not a good match for you. That's most people's problems. They keep things going because of a spark and ignore the douchebaginess. Um hello... that will get old in 20 yrs!

Quick background on Ms. Amy: She and I are approximately the same age. While I'm still single, she's been married to her husband for 7 years. She and I have been friends for 9-10 years (dang that's a long time) and she's often my wingwoman/pedicure partner/clothes critic/cocktail companion. She is also not perfect, but she is honest, loyal, and funny. I know she'll always tell me when I'm being crazy. Amen.